wHich?

Is It Love or Infatuation?

Love

1. An unselfish caring about the interest of the other...

2. Romance often starts slowly, perhaps taking months or years...

3. You are attracted by the other person's total personality and spiritual qualities...

4. The effect on you is that it makes you a better person...

5. You view the other realistically, seeing his or her faults, yet loving that one anyway...

6. You have disagreements, but you find that you can talk them out and settle them...

7. You want to give and share with the other person...

Infatuation

1. Is selfish, restrictive. One thinks, "What does this do for me?"

2. Romance starts fast, perhaps taking hours or days...

3. You are deeply impressed or interested in the other's physical appearance. ('He has such a dreamy eyes.' 'She's got a great figure')

4. A destructive disorganizing effect...

5. Is unrealistic. The other person seems perfect. You ignore any nagging doubts about serious personality flaws...

6. Arguments are frequent. Nothing really gets settled. Many are "settled" with a kiss...

7. The emphasis is on taking or getting, especially in satisfying sexual urges...

Source: YPA book